Valentine's Day? Really?

Perhaps if you try really hard today it'll make up for the other 364 days

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18 reasons Valentine's Day just sucks

1. Let's start with the obvious. It's a grotesque consumerist holiday designed to make people feel awful. Whether you're dating someone or you're not.

2. There's an overwhelming pressure to eat chocolate for no apparent reason.

3. You can't go out for dinner because everyone around you will be making gooey eyes. And you'll pay twice as much as a regular night AND have to queue.

4. There's always that smug person that gets sent roses at work. Some people's partners get really into the whole Valentines thing.

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Is Valentine's Day really worth it? (from someone very single)

By Joe Harker

Happy cheap chocolate eve! Oh, sorry that's not right.

Happy Valentine's Day! It's that time for couples everywhere to spend inordinate sums of money trying to prove something they should already be proving every other day of the year.

Can you tell I'm single?

Alright, let's actually have a bit of a look at a day where people can do incredibly sweet things for one another, or failing that purchase incredibly sweet things for one another.

The Claim:

Besides being an enjoyable day where you let that person most important to you know how valued they are, Valentine's Day is also a chance for you to take stock of your relationship.

When things are going well people often don't feel the need to put much effort into relationships, so a day where there's a social expectation to put in more effort can help jolt a couple out of a slump.

It's nice to be nice and really push the boat out once in a while, plus it lets you think about the parts of your relationship you cherish most.

The best time to do something nice for your partner is every moment leading up to this one, the second best time is right now. If Valentine's Day helps you realise there's more effort that needs to be put into your relationship then it's worth it.

The Counter Claim:

However, a specific day where people need to prove their love for one another can feel forced, not to mention nauseating for those who don't have plans.

You might also find your attempts to do something nice hindered by all the other people doing exactly the same thing.

Restaurants are going to be fully booked and there's a tinge of feeling that everything is being done because people have to, not because they want to.

Besides, some of the gifts on offer are just utterly terrible. This writer once saw a Valentine's Day gift section full of cushions that said "you is proper fit" and a part of him died that day, perhaps the best part.

The Facts:

Apparently one of the best ways to enjoy today is to ensure you're both on the same page in regards to how important it all is.

You don't want your better half thinking it's an occasion for flowers and chocolates if you're expecting a fancy meal and you certainly don't want one of you thinking you've agreed not to do anything when the other one is busy looking for the card which perfectly encapsulates your relationship.

Whatever effort you're putting in should be equal to your partner, otherwise that can make one side of the relationship feel as though they're taking an important day more seriously and undervalued.

Take it from me, someone who has been single for a long time.

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Valentine's Day and valuing your relationship

Valentine's Day is one of those days that can bring up a range of emotions. If you are in a relationship, it's important to understand your partner's feeling about and expectations of the day.

For some people, Valentine's Day is an important celebration and recognition of an important relationship. Others believe it is an unnecessary and commercial exploitation, or may be completely ambivalent to it. However you feel about Valentine's Day, if it is meaningful to your partner, recognising and celebrating it will show that you have paid attention to what is important to him or her.

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