Singletons "self-partnered"?

Emma Watson says she is not single - she is "self-partnered"

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Self-partnering, Emma Watson? Better stop that or you'll go blind

Today, readers, we're talking openly and frankly about "self-partnering". Come on now, don't be shy. Those of you who are seasoned self-partners will already know the pleasure it can bring. But it's nice of Emma Watson to help to reduce the stigma and shame around it by declaring that she self-partners and it makes her "very happy". Big hand for Emma, please.

Oh, no. You're thinking about something else entirely, aren't you? You're thinking about the thing that your nan told you would make you go blind, stunt your growth, give you hairy palms and kill a kitten each time you do it? Namely "DIY time"? Well shame on you and your filthy, filthy minds.

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Emma Watson: should single people call themselves "self-partnered"?

By Daniel J. McLaughlin

Emma Watson has coined a new phrase to describe her relationship status - and it has divided opinion.

The Harry Potter actor told British Vogue her anxieties about turning 30 - but said she was happy with her current situation.

She said that she is not single - but she is "self-partnered".

Watson said: "I never believed the whole 'I'm happy single' spiel. I was like, 'This is totally spiel.'

"It took me a long time, but I'm very happy [being single]. I call it being self-partnered."

Some argue that there needs to be new definitions about relationships, while others mock the "terrible, terrible" phrase.

The Claim

The Independent's Abby Young-Powell tells people not to mock Watson - saying that there is a reason why others are fed up of being described as 'single women'.

She says that we need new definitions to describe our relationship status in the Tinder age.

Young-Powell argues: "As someone who is also single, I understand. And, while I probably won’t be calling myself "self-partnered" any time soon, I welcome new ways to describe those of us who are not currently in long-term monogamous relationships.

"I've long cringed at the word "single". I find it hard to identify with when I see generalised articles about "singles" loving or hating life, or hear Beyonce sing about all her "single ladies". It’s never sounded like a club I want to be in."

Young-Powell says that the word "single" is too simple for "our modern, messy, chaotic world and the many different types of relationships people have, or for how relationships change over time".

The Counterclaim

However, the Times' Carol Midgley is not a fan of "self-partnered", calling it "a terrible, terrible phrase".

She ponders whether Watson is one of the thespians that are "saying this stuff to wind us all up and trend on Twitter".

Midgley writes: "There's nothing wrong with being single or the word "single" and single people are unfairly marginalised by a society that fetishises coupledom.

"But euphemising with this kind of pretentious horseshit suggests that there is something wrong with it.

"Self-partner is also a sort of oxymoron, given that the dictionary defines "partner" as a person who shares or is associated with another."

She adds: "Besides, who wants to sound like one of those daft people who get married to themselves in frocks with lavish weddings?"

The Facts

According to the Office for National Statistics, the number of single people, aged 16 and above, represented over a third of the UK population (35 per cent) in 2018.

The number of singletons increased by 369,000 from the previous year, raising to 16.7 million people out of a relationship in the UK.

Grazia reports that being single is not a concern for most single UK women. A 2017 study found that 61 per cent were "very happy with their relationship status" - and three quarters did not actively seek a partner.

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Opinion: Don't mock Emma Watson - there's a reason we're fed up of being called 'single women'

Emma Watson isn't single; she's "self-partnered". Or at least, that's how she chose to describe her relationship status in a new interview with .

The activist, who turns 30 next April and who is currently not in a relationship, explained that when she was younger she didn't believe people when they said they were happy to be single.

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